Slay Your Dragons - Malcolm Stern
"Slay your dragons with compassion"
To become equal to the dream sewn within us, our heart must break open and usually must break more than once. That’s why they say that the only heart worth having is a broken heart. For only in breaking can it open fully and reveal what is hidden within." - Michael Meade
This is a series of podcasts based on the premise explored in Malcolm Stern’s acclaimed book of the same name, that adversity provides us with the capacity to develop previously unexplored depths and is , in effect , a crucible for self reflection and awareness. Malcolm lost his daughter Melissa to suicide in 2014. It slowly dawned on him over the following few years that he was being educated and an opportunity was being presented where new insights helped him forge a path through his grief and despair. As part of that cathartic journey, he wrote “ Slay Your Dragons with Compassion ( Watkins 2020 ) where he was able to describe some of the practices that had helped him shed light on a way through the darkness.
Having run courses for a number of years for Onlinevents, he entered into a collaboration with John and Sandra Wilson, to put together a series of podcasts which featured interviews with people who had found enrichment through facing into, and ultimately overcoming adversity. The intention was to provide inspiration for its listeners to map out and challenge their own adversity. Some of his guests are well known - others less so, but each has a story to tell of courage, insight and spiritual and emotional intelligence.
More than 50 podcasts have been published so far and include Jo Berry’s moving story of transforming her fathers murder by the IRA in the Brighton bomb blast ( Sir Anthony Berry) by engaging with Pat McGee ( the man who planted the bomb) and finding forgiveness and meaning and an unlikely friendship. Andrew Patterson was an international cricketer who has found purpose and meaning after a genetic illness paralysed him and ended his sporting career. Jay Birch was an armed robber and meth addict , who woke up to his true self and now mentors and coaches other troubled individuals and Jim McCarty, a founder member of the Yardbirds , shares his story of his wife’s death from cancer and the deep spirituality he found in the wake of her passing.
All the podcasts are presented by Malcolm Stern. Who has worked as a group and individual psychotherapist for more than 30 years. He is Co-Founder of Alternatives at St James’ Church in London and runs groups internationally.
Sponsored by Onlinevents
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Episodes
73 episodes
How Intergenerational Trauma Shapes Love And Recovery with Andre Zitcer
Pain does not only come from what happened to us. Sometimes it arrives already packed in the family story, sitting in the nervous system like an inheritance we never asked for. We talk with Andre Zitcer about intergenerational trauma in the mos...
Faith, Fasting, And A Fierce Will To Live with Darinka Zupan
A single sentence changed everything: you’re not doomed. From that moment, Darinka chose life and built a disciplined, human path back to health—pairing monitored fasting and daily visualisation with music, nature, and the support of a healer w...
From Grief To Puppetry: How Adversity Shaped An Educator’s Life with Tony Gee
A sudden loss can set the course of a lifetime. Malcolm sits down with master puppeteer and educator Tony Gee to trace the unexpected path from a father’s death in Singapore to world-record puppet shows, radical youth work, and a philosophy of ...
Losing A Singing Voice Became The Door To Healing
A lost voice became a doorway. When our guest—a former international singer—underwent thyroid surgery and fell into silence, a drumbeat led to a startling vision of a warrior and an arrow to the throat. That image cracked open a deeper inherita...
Through Darkness To A Kinder Self with Fiona Robertson
What if the moment your life falls apart is not failure but initiation? In this candid conversation with author and philosopher Fiona Robertson, we trace the shape of a true dark night of the soul: the sudden crash after outward success, the fl...
After Love: Choosing Faith Over Despair with James Willing
Grief rarely knocks once. Sometimes it moves in, rearranges the furniture, and dares you to keep living in your own house. That’s where we meet James: a man who fell back in love with an old friend turned husband, built a life around art and qu...
From Banking To SoulHub: Building A Community For Belonging And Healing with Carmen Rendell
What if the smartest decision you ever make begins with your body quietly refusing to board the train? That was Carmen’s turning point—a full-body no that unravelled a polished corporate life and opened a door to travel, therapy, and a communit...
From HR Desk to Marathon Start Line: Claire’s Holistic Path to Purpose
What happens when you stop playing small and start telling the truth—to your coach, your body, and yourself? Claire joins us to share how she left a stable HR career and built a life around running, breathwork, and positive psychology, not as s...
From Ballroom Floors to Holding Space: Andrew Cuerden on Mastery, Faith, and Connection
What happens when a life built on performance turns toward presence? We sit down with world‑ranked dancer and coach Andrew Cuerden for a candid journey from a disciplined South African childhood to London hostels, global competitions, and the b...
Leading with Compassion: Nicholas Janni's Path from Drummer to Corporate Healer
The transformative power of bringing our full humanity into leadership takes center stage in this profound conversation with Nicholas Janni, award-winning author of "Leader as Healer." Nicholas shares his extraordinary journey from studying wit...
Reclaiming Your Name: Camilla Balshaw's Journey of Identity and Healing
What happens when your name isn't truly yours? When your cultural heritage is erased? When doctors dismiss your pain? Camilla Balshaw's powerful story tackles these questions with remarkable vulnerability and wisdom.For the first 24 yea...
When Your Hands Speak: A Journey Through Creative Healing with Caroline Born
What messages might our bodies be sending through illness, disability, or limitation? What wisdom lies beneath the surface of our physical challenges?Caroline Born, a movement practitioner with over four decades of experience, takes us ...
Singing Fields and Silent Wisdom: Chloe Goodchild's Journey
What happens when you discover your voice is actually a gateway to spiritual awakening? In this soul-stirring conversation, Malcolm Stern welcomes singer-philosopher Chloe Goodchild, founder of The Naked Voice, for a profound exploration of sou...
Transcending Trauma: One Woman's Journey to Enlightenment with Alina Panteleev
Alina's remarkable journey from the constraints of Soviet Ukraine to spiritual enlightenment reveals how profound suffering can transform into extraordinary wisdom. Born into poverty under communist rule, her early years were marke...
From Courtroom to Yoga Mat: Jonathan Sattin's Journey of Transformation
When a palm reader told high-powered lawyer Jonathan Sattin to quit his job during a lunch break reading, most people would have laughed it off. Instead, he handed in his notice that very afternoon. This seemingly impulsive decision marked just...
Becoming Ordinary: The Extraordinary Journey of a Psychotherapist with Martin Pollecoff
What happens when we stop swimming against the current and allow life to show us where we truly belong? Martin Pollecoff, former chair of the UK Council of Psychotherapists, shares a fascinating journey that began in industrial Birmingham and w...
Digital Sanctuaries: Creating Safe Spaces in an Unsafe World with John Wilson
Breaking free from a religious community that prays daily for the execution of outsiders leaves lasting wounds. But what happens when that same person harnesses their pain to create spaces where genuine connection can flourish?John Wils...
From Beatles to Addiction Counseling: Jenny Boyd's Authentic Journey
What happens when you step out of rock's golden spotlight to find your true self? Jenny Boyd's remarkable journey takes us behind the velvet rope of music history into a world few have experienced firsthand.Jenny opens up about travelin...
Beyond the Edge: Thriving in Darkness with Chukumeka Maxwell
A heart-stopping conversation with Chukumeka Maxwell takes us deep into the landscape of human suffering and transcendence. Born to a Nigerian father and Jamaican mother, Chukumeka's early life was marked by dramatic upheaval when civil war in ...
Prison, Addiction, and the Journey to Self-Acceptance with Russell Byrne
Russell Byrne takes us on a remarkable journey from childhood struggles with stuttering and shyness to finding temporary solace in alcohol, then ultimately discovering his true calling as a compassionate counsellor working with society's most m...
From Arranged Marriage to Art Therapy: Rosy Datt's Journey of Healing in India with Rosy Datt
Rosy Datt's life trajectory could have ended in tragedy. Molested by her uncle from age 11 to 18, trapped in two arranged marriages spanning decades, and physically abused by her parents—she instead transformed these profound wounds into a heal...
Finding Light in Darkness: Malcolm Stern's Journey with the Slay Your Dragons Podcast
Malcolm Stern takes a moment to reflect on the extraordinary journey of the "Slay Your Dragons with Compassion" podcast series in this special episode recorded during Podcast-thon. Born from the profound grief following his daughter Melissa's s...
Roses, Relationships, and Rewiring: One Woman's Path to Wholeness with Jewels Wingfield
When four-year-old Jewels Wingfield found temporary escape from her violent home environment by burying her face in a neighborhood rosebush, she discovered a profound truth that would shape her life's journey: nature could offer healing when hu...
Death, Finance, and Plasters: An Unexpected Path to Purpose with Joel Bravette
Celebrating the 50th episode of Slay Your Dragons with Compassion, I welcome Joel Bravette, a finance professional whose extraordinary life journey defies conventional career patterns. Joel's story begins with early encounters with death and lo...
From Corporate Armor to Compassionate Leadership with Micael Johnstone
In a world where business often prioritises profit over people, our latest podcast episode challenges this norm by introducing a refreshing perspective on compassionate leadership. Join us as we explore how vulnerability and genuine humanity ca...